Today’s Daily Prompt : Tell us something most people probably don’t know about you.
That’s a hard one. Most of me and my life is an open book, I don’t have much hidden away.
The only thing really hidden is my internal life and even most of that has been told. I feel the only thing most people would find surprising, that most don’t know, is how much of the time I’m scared and frightened.
I try hard to project an air of calm and confidence but when I’m talking to you I’m scared of saying the wrong thing. If I don’t know you when we start talking I’m frightened that you’ll find me weird or strange, too different to like.
With almost every task I undertake I’m scared of failure, anxious that I’m going to do something wrong. Professionally I’m OK, when I’m working on a systems task or fixing a computer problem I start out believing I can do it. It only takes a minor setback and that anxiety is there, though it is in the back of my mind and usually well controlled.
I have the same problem in my relationships, I’m full of fear. I don’t think my partners ever knew how anxious I was.
I’m anxious that as my lover you don’t know how I feel, I’m scared that I’m not open enough. I’m frightened that I’ll get left, get hurt. I’m frightened of hurting you, I’m nervous I’m asking too much, I’m scared about not doing enough, I’m fearful of controlling and I’m concerned I don’t leave room for you. A litany of anxious thoughts.
Of course there are times when I don’t feel anxious, frightened or scared. They are the moments I can relax and I treasure them all.
- The Benefits of Anxiety: What’s wrong with it, What’s… (blogs.psychcentral.com)
- What is anxiety (cbcee.wordpress.com)