Today’s Daily Prompt: “Tell us about a talent you’d love to have… but don’t.”
So it turns out that a talent is innate, it’s something you have, while a skill is something you can acquire.
The last time Daily Prompt came close to this topic it asked about learning something that came hard. In that case I talked about drumming.
Most of the things I’d like fall into “skills”. In that post I also mentioned Italian and Haskell programming. They are skills.
What talents do I already have? I think I have a talent for writing with some experience and skill in editing. I’ve also shown a talent for computer support.
What would I love to have that is a talent not a skill? Quite a lot of my desires are skills. A talent? I don’t really need to know how to dance, paint or sing – none of those artistic talents.
Where I sit at the moment I’d have to look at my life and say “relationships”. I’m not good at relationships, both platonic and romantic, and there are parts of finding and maintaining them that I think are innate. Some are skills, skills like knowing how to care for people and being a good listener.
Other parts of it I’m sure are innate, they are a talent. Making friends, understanding people, even seeing problems in a romantic relationship. These seem to me talents rather than skills. I’ve tried over the years to learn these things but they never seem to come to me. I lack the talent. I try hard, I’m a good friend to anyone, I’m always the first to help in a crisis and don’t mind doing any of those small favours. In a romantic relationship I always try to make the other person feel loved, I always make sure I say it and I always do a range of small things to make the other person feel good. It just doesn’t seem to work, I just don’t have the talent.
There is another talent I seem to lack, particularly at the moment. I’d like to be able find pleasure and happiness. As I sit here writing away with my major depression leaving me grey and lifeless I look back on the last thirty years and it seems that happy has been a fleeting state of affairs, never with me for long and always far too fragile. At the moment with major depression there are medical reasons I can’t find it – anhedonia, the inability to experience pleasure from activities usually found enjoyable, is one of the defining symptoms.
People tell me that finding happiness is actually a skill rather than a talent, that it can be learnt. I wish I believed that. It’s another thing I’ve tried to acquire, I’ve read any number of books, tried meditation, yoga, positive affirmations and all manner of things.
- A New Theory of Elite Performance (greatergood.berkeley.edu)
- Emotional Intelligence – What is it? (writeopedia.wordpress.com)
- The 7 Ways of Authentic & Lasting Relationships (jumpedinn.wordpress.com)
- Increase Your Success in All Areas of Life by Discovering Your Natural Talents (zodiaclivetarotreadingnews.wordpress.com)
- How to Leverage Your True Talent (inc.com)
- I Need You More Than Want You (psychologytoday.com)